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Have been working over 240hrs this month...that is, over 12hrs a day!!

My daily routin was like this: open my eyes - go to work - go back home - go straight to my bed then sleep...

I planned to fly to Shanghai on a weekend but failed...

All bcoz of the Conference on African Confucius Institutes Development which will be held on 6th-8th October.

and my National Day Holiday is ruined as well...I am sitting rite here in the office, just finished fixing fax machine...Today SHOULD be the first off-day during the long-holiday...

hope I can get some good sleep tonite and 2mr nite, really dont want to be like my section chief who got neurasthenic and woke up at 4am every morning!!

ps: just counted, I sent over 200 emails this month!!

I am sooooooooo tired!!! Have to deal with several blind dates during the holiday!!! I am just soooooooooo tired!!! Why cant they leave me alone???

maybe I really should consider moving out to live alone, I really cant bear those annoying nagging when back home from work...

 

I was wondering...since when had I became a workaholic...?????????

went2 the last OOC rehearsal...

set off at 5pm, got there at almost 8pm(yeah, fXXX the transportation during the O), ceremony finished at abt 10,  arrive home at 1130pm...

A: 太不可思议了!

B: 真主太恐怖啦。。。太牛了。。。土耳其。。。人至土则无敌!!!!!

C: 哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈～土耳其要是拿了冠军，会不会所有的kabab店免费供应kabab三天以示庆贺啊～??

D: 看来多吃kebab养成坚韧不拔，永不放弃的精神啊，建议中国队多吃kebab啊!!!

E: 要不建议中国队找个土国人随队来做KABAB??

F: 哎，我刚才回来的路上，一个女的好疯狂的按喇叭，高喊火鸡，火鸡的。。。

G: 预计... "你很土"将成为褒义词了...

H: 土耳其的对手们都是怎么想的呢，瑞士：先进球，先发制人，结果：1：2被逆转；捷克人吸取了瑞士的教训：先进俩球，结果：2：3被逆转；克罗地亚汲取了前面失败者的经验改变了策略，比赛结束前先进球，这下丫没辙了吧，结果：被土耳其压哨球扳平，点球落败再次被逆转（其实在被最后土耳其秒杀的时候就已经注定克罗地亚出局了，心理上承受不了）
好恐怖的土耳其！！
德国取胜土耳其只有一条路：建议德国让对手先进一球～～！！

I: 愿真主安拉保佑德国人...

J: 比赛前我还看好 克罗地亚呢...最后被扳平时候就预感点球克罗地亚没戏了...卖kabab的真是NB!

K: 我开始异常想念凯巴布了~~~

 

逗死我了。。。支持kabab队!!!

By Lynn Harris

 

Dear Lynn,
My Aunt Sonia died yesterday at age 86, having never married. My mom thought that she had been “too picky.” She was a great lady, and I never once heard her complain about being alone.

OK, now let me tell you about me: At age 20, I married a dishonest, emotionally abusive man and stayed in that marriage until age 41. Would you believe I thought no one else would want to put up with me? Talk about brainwashed!

Surprisingly, over those years of marriage, I completed medical school and started my own solo practice. Unfortunately, I trusted the ex to run the business, and he embezzled hundreds of thousands of dollars from me.

It’s now been five years since the divorce. I have made a fair comeback financially, but I’m emotionally exhausted: I just can’t care about anyone else. The last time I tried to date was four years ago, but now the fear of becoming obsessed with a guy scares me off. I tend to be an all-or-nothing person.

I also figure that I don’t really need anyone: I’m financially independent, I enjoy my work, my beloved employees, patients, intellectual challenges and exercising. Dare I say that I am finally happy? It’s really nice to get home from work, watch the news, and go to bed. I might die like Aunt Sonia, alone in a nursing home, but I hope I’m not lonely when I do. What do you think of my situation?
– Daria

 

Dear Daria,
Honestly, your life sounds pretty great to me. In many ways, I’m sure, the life you have set up for yourself — including the way you have moved on so sturdily from the Emotional Embezzler — would be the envy even of someone with a wonderful lifetime companion. I am delighted that you are, as you say, finally happy. (And I am, by the way, very sorry about your Aunt Sonia.)

I will also say for the record that it’s perfectly normal and fine to feel happy without a partner. Some folks are more lone wolves than others, to be sure. And many of us have felt the exhaustion you describe even without a spectacular romantic flameout like yours in our pasts. You should not wonder if something is wrong with you for feeling this way.

Clearly, though, some doubt is niggling, or you wouldn’t have written. Am I right?

Here’s the thing. It is fine not to want a partner. But you don’t need “incentive,” as you say, to have a companion. You don’t need to need extra income, you don’t need to enjoy partner sports, you don’t need to feel lonely in order to think it’d be nice to have someone around to, you know, share the driving. To kiss on the sleepy cheek when you head out in the mornings.

You do seem to set a lot of store by being independent, and that is admirable. But I would offer that being partnered does not mean being dependent. It means being interdependent. In the healthiest relationships, you are aware both of how much you need each other, and of how you really would, if you had to, be OK on your own.

So I’m not saying you have to buck up and go find someone. I’m just saying you can both live your life just as you are and be open to someone new. It’s perfectly normal to be gun-shy, even after five years, so maybe don’t start by dating per se. Start by meeting new people in recreational or professional settings. See what happens. No pressure.

Again, this is only if you feel like it. Maybe some days you will, some days you won’t. If you are happy, that is wonderful. But if there’s stuff that’s lingering from your marriage that is — in subtle and not necessarily devastating ways — keeping you from exploring yet another avenue to happiness, then well, I don’t want that to be yet another thing that you ex stole from you. Ask yourself some tough questions and maybe give yourself some more challenges—I know you’ll find real contentment no matter what.

 

Lynn Harris is co-creator, with Chris Kalb, of the award-winning website BreakupGirl.net—you can visit BG’s blog to discuss this letter! She is also the author of the new comic novel Death By Chick Lit. A journalist and essayist, Lynn also writes about gender, dating, and culture high and low for Salon, Glamour, The New York Times, and others. In her spare time, she enjoys being married. Submit your own dating questions for Lynn at BreakupGirl.net. Your question may be answered in a future column.

 

I really wish my parents would think as Lynn thinks...

for the Olympic i guess~

being single is not that difficult...

the most difficult part is, to deal with those who would use every conceivable means to make you get married...!!!

WTF!!!

Do you think because I am poor, plain, obsure and little...that I have no hreat? That I am without soul?

I have as much heart as you and as much soul.

And if God had given me some beauty and wealth, I would make it as hard for you to leave me as it is for me to leave you...

 

found a very charming turkish singer on the internet...

already downloaded 3 of his albums, but just one is in English...

  

and then found out that the famous "Kiss Kiss" was orginally sang by Tarkan!

LOVE HIM!!!

Back from VietNam...tired but happy!!

Time to go back to work...

Although VietNam is not so interesting as Thailand, I did enjoy my time in this country, slowly tempo and relaxed atmosphere...

Made new friends there, my dive instructor Tri (pronounced Chee) who has logged over 5000 dives in Nha Trang Bay, really nice vietnamese guy, responsible and cute!

 

 

Blue Seastar

 

Crazy House at Da Lat

 

White Sand Dune in Mui Ne